Monday, September 12, 2005

Advice, anyone?

First request for your wise counsel: What do those overexposed-at-the-swimming-pool dreams mean? I dreamt I was heading to the pool with my friend Kristin, who assured me it was fine to wear a white tank top in lieu of a swimsuit top since we'd just be sitting out in the sun. Then we ended up in the pool playing mixed-doubles volleyball—and me in a scarcely adequate, thin, wet tank top! Why?

Second request: That dream ended quickly, probably because Ben kept finding new ways to wedge his feet against me from about 5 a.m. on. He sleeps soundly throughout, but destroys any chance that I'll get a good night's sleep since my bedtime isn't 8:00. Would it be bad for me to use my kid's-in-school productive time to nap every day? I suspect Ben's wandering into my room and poking me incessantly with his feet is tied to kindergarten adjustment stress. The World's Most Independent Little Boy has been clingy for the past week, and I don't know what to do. Do I just wait it out, keep asking him if anything specific is troubling him, and reassure him that everyone else is feeling the same way? Or is there something more I should do? Do I talk to the teacher?

14 comments:

the nut said...

In my experience, it takes a full month for kids to fully adjust to a new routine/schedule. I'm just thankful Peanut has been tired enough to actually go to sleep every night at 8pm without making a gazillion excuses to interrupt my homework completion processes.

Reassuring is good though and keeping everything else the same, too, is a good idea. At least for a little while anyway.

Talking to his teacher and keeping those lines of communication open about Ben is never a bad thing. She might not notice anything yet because she's just getting used to his behaviors, too, but she can tell you what he's like while there. Kids are totally different creatures when their mommies aren't around, ;).

DoctorMama said...

Re: #2 -- Since HellBoy gets in our bed and starts poking with his feet at about 2 am, I don't have much in the way of helpful advice there. (Well, he's brought into bed.)
Re: #1 -- I find the dream interesting -- specifically, it's kind of a lame naked dream. You're not even naked -- you're wearing clothes, for chrissake! What's with that? Real naked dreams involve things like showing up for a meeting with the boss completely naked from the waist down. Yours sounds pretty pleasant, in fact.

Orange said...

Pantsless dreams are definitely more stressful than leaping-about-in-a-wet-t-shirt dreams—but who the hell is the intended audience for a wet-t-shirt dream? I don't think it's me.

Anonymous said...

Every day when Naz goes to school, I wave her a fond farewell and head straight back to bed with my cuppa coffee.
I don't get nearly enough sleep with the feets-in-the-back routine in the middle of the night.This is my truly sleeping phase, 8 am to 12 pm. She usually wakes me on her return, so we can start the day's scheduled nagging.
Suezboo

Rob Helpy-Chalk said...

1: The wet t-shirt dream is the most recent expansion of the cinemax cable empire. They are now plugging content into everyone's dreams. Eventually, everything will be soft core.

2: Napping is never wrong.

Orange said...

Rob: Teehee!

DoctorMama said...

You know you're probably listed on hotmamawetdreams.com now.
And I agree -- if you can nap, you should nap.

Orange said...

Why is everyone trying to get me to take a nap? Don't you like me when I'm awake? *sniffle*

I got a human amount of sleep last night because when the boy landed in my bed around 3 a.m., I hightailed it to his bed. Queen size, soft flannel sheets, a cool fan. Damn, I should sleep there (alone) every night.

Lisa said...

eh, just get him a twin. It's a lot easier that way.

oh, sorry. entirely unhelpful!! :P It's just that I eralized as a fellow kindergarten mom I should have some words of comfort or something. and I don't.

however. I am fairly certain you had that dream because you are DYING to post a shot of yourself in a wet, white tank top!!! do it, do it!!!!

Orange said...

Lisa, Lisa, Lisa. I don't even own the tank top that was in the dream. And I won't give you crap for not imparting school advice when we have been kindergarten moms for the same tiny amount of time!

Psycho Kitty said...

You're worried about a decision you've made recently--look for something related to your friend somehow, and probably a decision made this summer. You're concerned that the decision will expose or embarass you in some way--you'll look stupid? You'll be in over your head? This concern isn't something you think about a lot, consciously.

As for the stressed out kindergartner, I've got nothin'. I might have better ideas if my 2-year old didn't keep sticking HER feet in MY back at 3:00 a.m.

Orange said...

Kitty, quit psychoanalyzing me! You're freaking me out. You just may be onto something there...

Mona Buonanotte said...

Our new kindergartener is having stress-related OCD. Constantly washing her hands and coming up with 'scary' scenarios for me to walk through with her. I spoke with her teacher, and we're both convinced that once she gets more used to the big school (4x as big as her preschool), and the kids and teachers and routine, she'll come out of it. But reassurance, yeah, that's a big thing, goes a long way.

Psycho Kitty said...

O, I am SO not p-an-ing YOU, I'm p-an-ing your SUBCONSCIOUS! Bwahahaha.