tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post5651388674557960473..comments2023-10-26T14:01:08.426+03:30Comments on Orange Tangerine: A bleg for love life adviceOrangehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-74704851531043333342009-05-12T19:01:00.000+04:302009-05-12T19:01:00.000+04:30Ditch him.Ditch him.amyunicornhttp://www.xanga.com/amyunicornnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-55783578669708675812009-04-13T18:08:00.000+04:302009-04-13T18:08:00.000+04:30I think it's pretty clear what each one wants is n...I think it's pretty clear what each one wants is not really what the other one wants. <BR/><BR/>To not be passive agressive, I think Anne should initiate an honest talk with Brad about spacing intimacy with other relationships. <BR/><BR/>I personally, would want to know if the person I was sleeping with was sleeping with or dating other people. Not because I'm interested in marriage but (1) grumpywookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03768225831134576911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-30630256176873261202009-04-08T02:27:00.000+04:302009-04-08T02:27:00.000+04:30It's hard to be sure what's really going through B...It's hard to be sure what's really going through Brad's mind. The real question is whether Anne can continue to be with someone who'd go online so soon after being with her. Anne's confronting Brad is a great way to ensure that the relationship doesn't progress further, but maybe a postmortem is all that's possible at this point.Steven Piercehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14220335740297514556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-77114228562108046852009-03-31T06:19:00.000+04:302009-03-31T06:19:00.000+04:30Anne, Brad's just not that into you!Anne, Brad's just not that into you!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363681572935590516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-55464583435147025742009-03-27T07:36:00.000+04:302009-03-27T07:36:00.000+04:30Dude. Seriously? Anne's got issues. So does Brad.A...Dude. Seriously? Anne's got issues. So does Brad.<BR/><BR/>Anne thinks it's okay to spy on a guy she's admittedly *not* in an exclusive relationship with because???<BR/><BR/>Brad thinks it's okay to not even let a decent interval pass before putting the moves on another woman? So much for basking in any glow they might have created.<BR/><BR/>Keeping in mind that I don't know the people involved Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-80302891434229517882009-03-26T19:36:00.000+04:302009-03-26T19:36:00.000+04:30I think she should just come to terms with the fac...I think she should just come to terms with the fact that he's trying to hook up with as many women as possible in the shortest period of time. It's a challenge guys set for themselves. I use to do it all the time- not to be hurtful or sneaky or anything negative but simply to see how many different partners I could be with by the end of the week, or month. Eventually you fall in love with Neverbored Board Shop https://www.blogger.com/profile/06160125303541711362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-85425972597919886092009-03-20T21:36:00.000+03:302009-03-20T21:36:00.000+03:30I'd say she has issues going on here as well. If s...I'd say she has issues going on here as well. If she felt she needed to check up on him, then she should be conscious of that and realize she doesn't trust him.<BR/>It was fun, it is over, imho.<BR/>She must really want something more serious, or she wouldn't care. He is not going to give her what she wants, not for a long while.<BR/>Personally, from some experience on a similar situation, I Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11772999231462021818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-89558867860459510832009-03-19T23:57:00.000+03:302009-03-19T23:57:00.000+03:30"She is honestly OK with him reaching out to peopl..."She is honestly OK with him reaching out to people on that website because their relationship isn't exclusive—but to do so within a half hour of cuddling with her is a huge slap in the face"? The second half of that sentence is a direct contradiction of the first half. I smell some serious self-delusion.DoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-28289345565722730412009-03-19T17:02:00.000+03:302009-03-19T17:02:00.000+03:30I think Anthrax is closest to my own thoughts on t...I think Anthrax is closest to my own thoughts on this. Anne should ask Brad where he sees the relationship going, and on what kind of timetable. She has a little extra information, which she doesn't need to reveal (and I don't think she's being duplicitous for not revealing it), but his answers should give her the info she wants. If he says, hey, I have a great time with you, but I am REALLY notNaryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05369280617520806983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-59033390646589114632009-03-19T15:25:00.000+03:302009-03-19T15:25:00.000+03:30It doesn't sound like Brad has communication probl...It doesn't sound like Brad has communication problems, it sounds like he communicates pretty well.<BR/> <BR/>When he doesn't respond to a text message for days, it says "this relationship will happen on my time, and I am not looking for something full time."<BR/><BR/>When he does not make their relationship exclusive, and reaches out to other women on the internet, he is saying "I don't want to Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918184750976119558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-44278067320006355622009-03-19T05:44:00.000+03:302009-03-19T05:44:00.000+03:30I agree with Andrea. I found it quite interesting ...I agree with Andrea. I found it quite interesting that Anne felt compelled to set up the fake account --- you say she didn't want to have it look like she was spying on him, but in fact that's exactly what she was doing. It was crude of Brad, and perhaps a kind of betrayal, to seek someone else out right after being with Anne, but it really was also crude of her, and another kind of betrayal, to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-5993283924050650912009-03-18T19:31:00.000+03:302009-03-18T19:31:00.000+03:30Nothing. Except delete the fake Anne profile.She ...Nothing. Except delete the fake Anne profile.<BR/><BR/>She knows now what he is and where he is. I bet she knew that before and that's why she made the fake profile. Either she takes it at face value or she can move on. Bruising divorces are confusing painful things and to expect some sort of logical behavior out of the guy...well it's illogical.<BR/><BR/>She says she wants one thing when herThe Absent Minded Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14367710044518218570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-23212090024304044342009-03-18T17:56:00.000+03:302009-03-18T17:56:00.000+03:30I agree with the other two. Communication is impor...I agree with the other two. <BR/><BR/>Communication is important, but...so is trust. And she created another account in order to "spy" on him. So, that's a red flag in the relationship already.<BR/><BR/>But how interesting that one of the other women he reached out to after being with Anne was "Fake Anne." Ya know?Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16356787406494156279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-86449608626841997692009-03-18T02:19:00.000+03:302009-03-18T02:19:00.000+03:30I echo exactly what Charlie said and would add one...I echo exactly what Charlie said and would add one thing:<BR/><BR/>Brad's motivation for phishing so soon after leaving Anne was most likely for one of two reasons. Either he didn't have the wonderful evening she remembered and he felt like it was time to move on. Or he had a truly wonderful evening and got the commitment jitters and thought he'd better hurry up and expand his horizons or (Mignonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07716330276288396317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11109864.post-87948488984463245092009-03-17T19:26:00.000+03:302009-03-17T19:26:00.000+03:30I would say that Anne shouldn't feel the need to o...I would say that Anne shouldn't feel the need to overrule her real and valid feelings with a general principle.<BR/>Which is to say, she shouldn't let the general principle of being okay with Brad dating other people <BR/>outweigh the fact that it hurts to know that Brad was actively searching for other dates right after he was with her. <BR/><BR/>I'm not one to tell someone exactly how they Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06582002690213501584noreply@blogger.com